So I'm sitting here, home alone, on a Saturday night / wee small hours of Sunday morning watching a re-run of Good News Week chuckling along, until I start to get a little annoyed.
Apparently last Thursday was Australia's inaugural National Singles Day. The coupled up members of the panel found this quite amusing and proceeded to pretty much bag out singles. Suggesting that there would be a triathlon consisting of "Crying, crying and masturbating". Nice. Yes, a part of me can see the humour, but I've been a bit jack of being single at the moment so it did irk me somewhat.
Why is it that if you're single you seem to be treated as somewhat of a social pariah by non-single friends? I know I'm not the only one who's experienced this. I've chatted to two other friends about this recently and they have totally understood what I was talking about, where I was coming from and they too had experienced it. One even told me of being invited to a friend's birthday party. There were several couples, and him. He felt so completely uncomfortable that he gave the birthday girl the money for his meal, and left before it had even come out to the table. He explained that he didn't feel comfortable, and left. Several months later (eight or so!) she spoke to him and apologised for what had happened and said she could now see why he felt so uncomfortable. Regardless of the apology, surely she would've realised when doing the inviting that the numbers weren't exactly balanced.
Now, I've not spent much of my life as a single gal. Between my ex-husband and my ex-boyfriend there was an eight month gap (a very messed up eight month gap that I really didn't enjoy or use to my advantage) and this time around I've been single for nearly 6 months. I'm certainly enjoying it a lot more this time, I'm enjoying learning more about myself and enjoying having time to myself, to make my own decisions and to live my life as I see fit. What I don't enjoy is feeling like I have some kind of disease because I'm not in a relationship.
I would rather be single and happy, then in a relationship and unhappy. Simple as that. Funnily enough, I'm at a point in my life where I'm the most 'ready' for a relationship that I've ever been, and the whole 'being single' is starting to shit me to tears, but it was still my decision to put myself in this position and I still stand by that decision. This decision does not make me socially inept. It makes me a strong and independent woman who's not afraid to get what she wants. Can everyone in a relationship say that about themselves I wonder?
Okay, hackles down now. Apologies for the long hiatus between blogs!
Signed,
Single, it's a way of life, not a disease.
Apparently last Thursday was Australia's inaugural National Singles Day. The coupled up members of the panel found this quite amusing and proceeded to pretty much bag out singles. Suggesting that there would be a triathlon consisting of "Crying, crying and masturbating". Nice. Yes, a part of me can see the humour, but I've been a bit jack of being single at the moment so it did irk me somewhat.
Why is it that if you're single you seem to be treated as somewhat of a social pariah by non-single friends? I know I'm not the only one who's experienced this. I've chatted to two other friends about this recently and they have totally understood what I was talking about, where I was coming from and they too had experienced it. One even told me of being invited to a friend's birthday party. There were several couples, and him. He felt so completely uncomfortable that he gave the birthday girl the money for his meal, and left before it had even come out to the table. He explained that he didn't feel comfortable, and left. Several months later (eight or so!) she spoke to him and apologised for what had happened and said she could now see why he felt so uncomfortable. Regardless of the apology, surely she would've realised when doing the inviting that the numbers weren't exactly balanced.
Now, I've not spent much of my life as a single gal. Between my ex-husband and my ex-boyfriend there was an eight month gap (a very messed up eight month gap that I really didn't enjoy or use to my advantage) and this time around I've been single for nearly 6 months. I'm certainly enjoying it a lot more this time, I'm enjoying learning more about myself and enjoying having time to myself, to make my own decisions and to live my life as I see fit. What I don't enjoy is feeling like I have some kind of disease because I'm not in a relationship.
I would rather be single and happy, then in a relationship and unhappy. Simple as that. Funnily enough, I'm at a point in my life where I'm the most 'ready' for a relationship that I've ever been, and the whole 'being single' is starting to shit me to tears, but it was still my decision to put myself in this position and I still stand by that decision. This decision does not make me socially inept. It makes me a strong and independent woman who's not afraid to get what she wants. Can everyone in a relationship say that about themselves I wonder?
Okay, hackles down now. Apologies for the long hiatus between blogs!
Signed,
Single, it's a way of life, not a disease.
1 comments:
I'm so with you. Y'know what else I've noticed...single women thinking they 'need' to find someone and putting pressure on their friends. I got out of a long relationship in Jan this year and haven't been on the dating scene...quite happy being single at the moment. But...I have single girl friends who are desperately trying to find 'the one' and putting the pressure on me as well...and then I find myself thinking along the lines of "oh my god...it's too late...i'm never going to find anyone" etc etc. This 'disease' of being single is spreading...everyone thinks it's horrible. But sometimes, it's okay.
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